• Forum: Mindset & Motivation

  Coping with setbacks…

  Posted by Julie on July 9, 2025 at 5:28 pm

  What do you do when you have a setback?

  I vary, but setbacks always depress me. It feels like a bad cha cha. 2 steps forward, 1 step back.

  Sometimes I just rest, sometimes I doom scroll (not productive, though), and sometimes I call a friend.

  Teri replied 4 months ago 2 Members · 1 Reply
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  Teri

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  July 16, 2025 at 9:53 pm

  I have a lot of unproductive responses to setbacks, like comfort eating. *But* something that does work for me is to dig down and ask “why?” a bunch of times.

  Why do I perceive this as a setback?

  What do I believe about why this setback happened?

  What beliefs am I holding about myself in relation to this?

  Are these facts or feelings?

  Is fear involved?

  etc… to really dig in to the root.

  Often I find that I believe that I could/should have had better control over something that wasn’t mine to worry about. Often I need to give myself permission to have a non-linear process.

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